Well, that sucks. I know just how you feel, exactly really, having just put in an affiliation request to a site for one (the predecessor of The Dark Times, which is currently affiliated with TRF) that became corrupted and later deleted when one member joined and screwed things up. Gosh it was embarrassing to go to the people I was trying to affiliate with and say, "Oh, well, nevermind, you know, because our site owner closed it down after her friend screwed things up. Have a nice day, because I'm sure we won't be." Or something along those lines.
I empathize to the nth degree. I hope you are able to recover or restart in a new location.