Hello. I am the Owner of StarWarsRPG.net and I have been following this discussion as well as the threads on The Gungan Council's ezboard.
While I agree that a unity project could be beneficial in many ways to help strengthen and diversify roleplaying opportunities in the Star Wars galaxy, I also see how it could be detrimental to force communities to be associated with those they have chosen not to be associated for their own reasons and experiences.
There are two communities on the list that simply are not going to be associated with StarWarsRPG.net in any way. This conclusion has been reached over years of observation and personal experience with the owners of those two communities. I do not feel that my refusing to be associated with two of the communities makes me less mature in any way. It simply makes it my choice, and it is a choice based on acts that were committed against myself and my community members.
No project is larger than the common fiber of basic human decency toward one another. That core issue makes me lean more toward participating in an affiliation program where I can be assured that the communities linked to StarWarsRPG.net are like-minded with regards to how to treat one another.